Michael W. (The Dating
Wizard):
Lately, I've been thinking, I'm not going to THINK about these articles.
This isn't a creative writing course, it's about how to get a woman.
So my priority is clear: GET GUYS WOMEN.
It's not about sounding smart, it's not about sounding flashy, it's not
about porn, it's
not about fantasy. It's about GUYS GETTING WOMEN.
I would say "A" woman, but usually in order to get THE woman, a guy is
going to have to learn how to get "THE WOMEN" in general.
You'll see why as we go along here.
As you probably already know, since I've first started with this whole
thing, I've taken the teaching of this stuff VERY seriously.
That doesn't mean I haven't had any fun along the way, and it doesn't
mean that I haven't enjoyed the vast majority of it.
But ultimately, underneath it all, I have NEVER forgotten just how
painful this area of our lives can be if we don't know how it works and
if we don't put in the effort to get the skills.
A lot of pain.
Or maybe it was just me.
Let me get one thing straight before we go any further, about what the
FUNDAMENTAL challenge is these days in order to attract the kind of
woman you want and not only attract this woman, but get her to be so
into you that she's screaming your name out in pleasure night after
night.
The fundamental challenge, at least in Western societies comes from the
fact that women have not only made progress, but there has actually been
a BASHING of men's status and a BASHING of men's self-esteem, as well as
a simultaneous WORSHIP of women's physical beauty - an ARTIFICIAL
inflation of women's looks, if you will. I'm not blaming anyone in
particular, as the blame game is not only useless but also far too
complex to pin on anyone.
In fact, in a huge way, men are just as responsible for all this as
women, so don't go start hating women after reading this. It all started
with good intentions, i.e. not having women as second class citizens,
etc. And obviously, I'm all for that, but things have gone pretty crazy
since then.
The bottom line is that today, a woman who is attractive is simply
walking around with a massively inflated sense of sexual value. Her
spoiled behavior is not proportionate to her beauty, it's WAY beyond,
it's totally beyond proportion.
I could give you billions of examples of this, but let's face it, you
ALREADY have EXPERIENCED this, you just might not have totally been
awake to the why, or maybe you thought it was you, or maybe you thought
"this is the natural way that unfortunately it has to be and always
was".
And this inflated sense of value that a woman who is attractive has,
equates to a massive sense of POWER over men who are interested in her,
which is, of course, most men.
So let me get to the SOLUTION.
The solution is to learn to "JAM" her frequency. What I mean by this is
that, (and from now on instead of writing "a woman who is attractive"
I'm just going to write "a woman" or "chick" or what have you, because I
hate repeating words, and also because the truth is, that these days a
woman who is just BARELY attractive is already considered a big deal,
where tons of guys act like pathetic worthless ass-kissers for her) a
woman is only as powerful as she is FEELING at any given moment.
Don't get me wrong, this is not about making her feel BAD. That would be
a big mistake that would get you very little return on your actions.
It's about getting her right into that SWEET spot where she feels that
YOUR value is just a little bit ABOVE hers, (but for most guys this is
actually going to require them to behave in a MASSIVELY different way
than before) at which point you then help HER bridge the gap in a GIVING
way making her feel that not only are you more desirable than her, but
that you also APPRECIATE her and that somehow she is lucky enough to
have found a guy like you who can do this.
I know that sounds very clinical, but it's not much different than when
you go to the store and you see a fantastic product that you would love
to get but you think it's out of your price range, and then suddenly you
find out that you have a bit more cash and that you could now ALMOST
afford it, and then you find out that because you are ______ (insert
whatever makes you special) you are entitled to just enough of a special
so that you can GET IT!
So you go home ECSTATIC.
Now all that is simple in theory, but in REALITY, accomplishing this
takes a LOT of insight, a LOT of finesse, and a LOT of emotional
self-control.
Why does it take so much emotional self-control?
Because attraction is a PROCESS of not only learning lots of things, but
of FEELING different emotions as well. And of having different emotional
reactions to things than you USED to have.
At first, this will be TOUGH.
Because your old beliefs will make you feel BAD when a woman undervalues
you in the early part of the interaction.
Most guys will BREAK emotionally, and they will SHOW it.
THAT is the kiss of death to attraction. THAT is where guys FAIL most
miserably.
There's more to attraction, but you will NOT FAIL with women, you will
NOT be blown out, if you can just PRESERVE your TENACIOUS GRIP ON YOUR
MENTAL FRAME.
This CANNOT JUST BE ACHIEVED BY THINKING ABOUT IT. Thinking is PART of
it, and I get into all the best ways to do this in my programs as well
as explain tons of other crucial stuff, but you MUST GET EXPOSED TO THE
SITUATIONS OF PICK-UP so that you GROW STRONGER and learn to KEEP your
frame, KEEP your emotional state from being affected by HER "jamming"
your internal state with her behavior.
In one way or another, MOST GUYS MOST ABSOLUTELY WILL FAIL at this, it's
just NOT WORTH it to them, THE EMOTIONAL COST IS TOO HIGH, they'd rather
RUN FOR THE HILLS!
You are going to have to TOUGH IT OUT until you can see the FRUIT of
your work, which will then give you a whole new perspective and a whole
new, empowering, even CALMING emotional reaction to the things that
would make most men run for the hills.
You see, you don't go from ZERO to her wanting you to BANG the living
daylights out of her. Or to use more intimate words, for you to "make
love" to her.
No, what happens, is that a woman will FIRST think not much of you.
Nothing bad, but nothing good. Then, you will interact with her. She
will size you up on this. She will STILL not be convinced you are FOR
SURE a great catch even if you do this initial interaction WONDERFULLY,
so she will CONTINUE to treat you as if you are a bit LESS than her.
Here's where I used to EXPLODE years ago.
See, I had no PATIENCE or tolerance for this horse-s**t. I knew in my
gut that I could never actually LOVE someone that behaved that way,
EVER.
The problem though, is that I still was massively sexually driven and
still felt massive attraction to girls who were hot. And although I
wasn't being used by any girls since I dumped them before anything could
happen, I also wasn't getting much "action". And trust me, it's not like
all I cared about was "action".
All I really wanted was a woman who was decently hot and NOT spoiled.
But if you think you can get that without having some insights and
skills, forget it unless you are some movie star or celebrity. Even THEN
if you don't have these skills, you can STILL be in for some major
trouble.
If you think "Ahh forget it, I'll wait till I meet a woman who loves me
automatically", again, FORGET THAT.
I'm not saying AT ALL to just go for any woman, you SHOULD have
standards. I have high standards in many ways, i.e. women who don't
smoke, who are high self-esteem, educated, have a sense of purpose
beyond material things, etc.
What I AM saying though is that when it comes to how to treat men, women
are spoiled. So if you expect to meet a woman here who is not spoiled,
in this specific way, then all I can say to you is good luck.
Hey, maybe Leprechauns, Santa Claus, and the tooth fairy also exist,
just like women who are hot and not spoiled when it comes to men are
everywhere as well.
Listen, if you live in the West, (and from what I hear from guys who
live in other countries, it's not so great always there either) chances
are slim to NONE that you are going to get a woman who is attractive
(did it again) and who will AUTOMATICALLY go for you and who will
AUTOMATICALLY
respect you right off the bat. Nope, instead, you are going to have to
INTELLIGENTLY DEAL WITH HER INITIAL CRAP-STORM in order to turn things
around and totally have her chasing you.
I know this letter sounds a bit dark, and I'm a HUGE believer in
positive thinking, at the same time I'm also a HUGE believer in TRUTH.
Truth is more important to me than anything. Once you have the truth,
you can work with it. You can and SHOULD then be as positive with it as
possible.
When you INTELLIGENTLY deal with her initial crap-storm, it is ONE
example of the beginning of the "JAMMING HER FREQUENCIES" process.
You see, her frequency for guys is pretty much set to "VAPORIZE ALL GUYS
AND BASK IN THE GLORY OF ENDLESS VALIDATION THAT GUYS GIVE ME" mode. And
then get depressed to the highest degree over something like why her
daddy didn't buy her cookies on her birthday when she was 6 years old or
why her girlfriend did something not nice to her. And feel like life is
terrible.
But as far as her frequency to GUYS, it's set to VAPORIZE. Why? Because
simply put, our society has got her to believe that most guys simply are
NOT WORTHY.
But triumphing from her crap storm, (her disrespect toward you, however
slight, whether it's her expecting you to meet her at her far away
location rather than vice versa, or any of a MULTITUDE of disrespectful
behaviors) is only ONE part of success.
As soon as you BEGIN the interaction, the first WORDS you say, count to
a degree as well. You want to JAM HER MENTAL PATTERN of vaporizing all
guys before it can start, or at least before it can go off full blast.
So, for example, by opening up your interaction with something that gets
an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE from her, from laughter to excitement to shock,
you are FORCING HER MENTAL PROGRAM TO CHANGE PROGRAMS, because it's
IMPOSSIBLE to be in to two places mentally at once.
If she is LAUGHING, she is OVERTAKEN by that emotion. She can't BLOCK
you out. She's too busy feeling GOOD.
If she is emotionally taken over by INTRIGUE from what you say, again,
she is now UNABLE to think about blocking you, as she is NOT THINKING AT
ALL, she is FEELING now.
Feeling and thinking don't go well together. At least not at the exact
same time.
So you have to learn how to get her EMOTIONAL as soon as possible,
otherwise she starts THINKING again, and you're FINISHED.
You ONLY want her to start thinking once she's BURSTING WITH SO MUCH
EMOTIONAL OVERLOAD, that at this point, her emotions will now TOTALLY
shape her thinking, and her thinking will now go into reverse
rationalization mode as she starts to justify WHY she is feeling
everything for you.
Learning to do all this shit isn't always easy. This is why I have all
types of programs, including PRIVATE ONE-ON-ONE BOOTCAMPS where I will
be YOUR TRAINER who shows you EVERYTHING in real time on real women, for
three days and three nights.
This is not some marketing scheme.
It's simple- me showing you how it's done, then me making sure that YOU
are doing it right.
I need to say also that one of the toughest parts of this skill is
having the FAITH that it's going to work, because when a chick is
initially NOT going for you, or she is going for you but giving you some
crap, the GUT instinct is to say HELL with this. For some guys, it's
because they can't take the blow to their self-esteem. For other guys,
it's BECAUSE their self-esteem is so high, that they can't take the
crap.
So what happens is that most guys never see the OTHER side. The side
where the woman is now totally into YOU.
And the other thing I need to mention is that ONCE YOU START TO GET MANY
WOMEN AFTER YOU, you suddenly are able to become TOTALLY SUBJECTIVE
about the whole thing.
Why is this?
Because you ALREADY KNOW YOU HAVE THE ACE IN THE HOLE. Oops, pun not
intended.
The point is that you already HAVE what you want, so you don't get
emotionally affected by the PROCESS.
And THIS, THIS MY DEAR FRIENDS, is PART of what takes you into a WHOLE
NEW LEVEL
OF EXISTENCE.
Where all the "tactics" and "strategies" become TOTALLY INSTINCTIVE AND
A NATURAL PART OF WHO YOU ARE BECAUSE IN FACT YOU ARE NOW ON THE SAME
MENTAL PLANE OF REALITY AS THE WOMAN!!!
IN FACT, YOU ARE ON A HIGHER PLANE. You feel it internally, and you show
it on every dimension of communication, from your sense of humor, body
language, voice tone, from your lack of having an emotional response to
her misbehavior and thus showing she doesn't have that much value
relative to yours, and from SO much more, it all simply GELS into one
thing: ATTRACTION that she feels MASSIVELY for you.
That's why getting the FIRST woman is always the HARDEST, because
although you are working on the SELF-CREATED EMOTIONS you have learned
to generate, and though you are working also on the brilliant THEORY you
have learned, it's much easier to do it all PROPERLY and to do it all
BEST when you ABSOLUTELY KNOW it works!
All of sudden, when you have even just ONE success behind you, you
become WAY MORE EFFECTIVELY AND EFFICIENT. You already KNOW it works, so
you are not being bogged down with mental viruses called doubts and
fears, like a computer program that is running slow because of a virus.
You are then free of the mental virus, FREE TO TRULY FOCUS ON USING WHAT
YOU LEARNED rather than wasting half your energy on doubting what you
have learned.
Plus, your instincts will now start to YELL at full blast that all that
you have learned indeed IS true.
you now GET IT on an instinctive and primal level. You now have the
advantages of BOTH the theory AND the instinct, so that you are truly
firing on all cylinders.
And if you think about it, it makes sense that she WOULD be into you.
Let's face it, a woman's prime starts when she's 17. It's already WANING
by the time she is 26. That's barely 9 years, and she is losing value in
this department every day after that. But you wouldn't think so by the
masses of men kissing up to women everywhere at every age.
That's not me being MEAN, it's just a fact that is important to realize
in a society where a woman who is a bit attractive thinks she is GOD
over men.
Here's another fact to remember- the pursuit of material wealth that
most women are so adamant about often leaves them with no guy in their
life, because they were so busy trying to be independent from men and
trying to be masculine and tough and in charge and superior, that no guy
in his right mind would want to be with her when she is not even hot
anymore. For after all, she may very well have no personality AND no
looks at that point.
You'd think women would be smart about this, and be on the lookout for a
good guy, so they can avoid this predicament, but they aren't.
And you'd think that they'd realize that any guy who is smart and
skilled enough to get HER, can probably do the same thing again on
ENDLESS other women, and therefore he will never truly feel she is
"special". After all, her CHARACTER really wasn't special, so why SHOULD
he feel special?
A smart woman would be wise to make sure her man DOES feel special, by
showing him MAXIMUM respect. After all, he knows how to get other women
if he got her.
Unless he's one of those guys that doesn't know how, and thus she will
probably abuse him for life. Which happens a lot.
But if you are man who has learned these skills, and you get her, and
YOU KEEP ON DOING THE RIGHT THINGS to maintain the attraction, trust me,
as time goes by she realizes more and more how her value is DROPPING and
yours is INCREASING.
She will treat you so well that you will suddenly start to FEEL all
those wonderful emotions inside of you. And trust me, I think those
emotions are AWESOME, just also trust me that you need to realize what
TRIGGERED those feelings inside her for you, and you must never forget
these skills. The good news is that from using them all the time, they
will become instinct.
AND the good news is that you will then start to realize the full value
of ALL the skills I teach you, because learning to make a woman feel
GREAT is just as important as making her feel YOU are great, but most
guys never get to the point where the woman is DESPERATELY WANTING THE
GUY'S APPROVAL.
But once you are at this point, it's VERY VERY CRUCIAL that you learn
how to INTELLIGENTLY AND EFFECTIVELY MAKE HER FEEL LIKE A MILLION BUCKS.
However, most guys never get to this stage.
And even if they do get a woman, the problem is that most guys then lose
their manhood and start to kiss up so badly...ALL BECAUSE they are
SCARED SH**LESS of losing that guaranteed s-e--x.
And sometimes, the guy is not even GETTING that, but is STILL tolerating
her disrespect because he is afraid of losing her!
So it's very simple - if you want to get the kind of woman you are
ATTRACTED to in your life, you're going to have to GEAR UP and LEARN how
to MANEUVER into a woman's mind until she is OBSESSED with you.
FEW MEN will be able to handle this task. It's NOT easy.
It takes SKILL, and it takes GUTS, and it takes MASSIVE SELF-CONTROL.
If you think you can handle that, then maybe you're ready to change your
life.
Here's an email that just came in today from a man using this program
right now.
***LETTER FROM A MAN USING THE SEDUCTION MASTERY PROGRAM***
Michael,
I think you deliver true value, and your passion can be felt throughout
the program. I love the values that you stand for. Your integrity and
spirituality have won me over.
I just wanted to let you know that your program is THE BOMB. It seems to
fill in all these tiny holes along the journey, immensely streamlining
the journey. A great number of lifelong confusions have dissipated
forever.
It's been a while now since I singled you out as my mentor in this area,
and you have never let me down. The focus on being, on knowing as
opposed to techniques means everything for real success and I feel very
privileged to have this program. However, it is important to go through
the program again and again and bridge over to the real world until
things get fully internalized.
>>>MY REPLY<<<
Thank you for that detailed and awesome testimonial. It's good to know
that my insane passion for this stuff, (triggered mostly by pain, that
has been at least effectively channeled into something good) is actually
making a difference. And absolutely, the goal here is to ACHIEVE that
level of BEING, as opposed to forced memorizing of "techniques". And
this level of BEING would be almost impossible to achieve otherwise,
without having experienced it, so this program can truly save a guy
YEARS of time.
If
you haven't yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to
Success with Women, do it IMMEDIATELY at:
www.thedatingwizard.com/ebook.htm
It's the place to start before moving on to my advanced programs.
Till next time,
Michael
PS. If you want more information before purchasing any of my products
(they come with the best personal guarantee of any ebook and CD material
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